The secret to… surviving being childless when it’s not your choice

Seek out other people who know what you’re going through

Don’t let sadness force you to buy into the idea that you’ve done anything wrong, or that there’s something fundamentally wrong with you. It’s hard enough to cope with without beating yourself up more.

Seek out other people who know what you’re going through. It can take a long time to give up hope of becoming a biological parent, but with that can come real grief, which is often unrecognised by others. Look for involuntarily childless people online or via local groups. It’s a huge help having others who understand how it feels to be “the last one standing” among your mates.

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Continue reading... April 28, 2018 at 02:00PM