My wife flies into uncontrollable rages with me and the children

She has always been a strong-willed woman, but she also has anger issues and each outburst forces us further apart

When I first met my wife, I was attracted to her as she was strong-willed and confident. She can also be angry, and after seven years of marriage we attended couples therapy, which helped us address issues (her controlling her anger and me becoming better at communication). The anger became worse after the birth of our children. Now that they are getting older, things are getting better, but I can’t help feeling this anger is now a normal part of my family’s life. She loses her cool over small things that either I or the kids do. She plays happily with them one minute then losses her cool completely the next. She would not see herself as a “natural” mother. Each aggressive outburst from her makes me withdraw more from her. I feel I deserve better and so do our kids.

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